How to Use a Dildo in Solo or Partner

The use of a dildo is rather simple. You don't need a 10-page instruction manual to figure out how to use it. You can tell what the toy's function is just by looking at it. Is it correct that it looks and feels like a penis and is used to penetrate the vagina or anus? However, several key criteria must be followed when utilizing this popular toy. You'll have a safer and more enjoyable encounter with a dildo if you know the proper methods and placements. Let's take a deeper look at dildos and how to use them properly now that we've established that.

What is a dildo?

Before we get into the step-by-step guide on how to use a dildo, let's do a quick review. A dildo is a sex toy that is intended to resemble an erect penis. It comes in different materials, shapes, designs, sizes, colors, and textures. You can use it during masturbation or partner play, and it works best for vaginal or anal penetration. You can also use it as a practice toy to improve your blowjob and handjob skills. As for its history, did you know that dildos already existed in the Stone Age? During that period, dildos were made from wood, tar, bone, limestone, and ivory. 

Over time, new materials have been invented for dildos, such as silicone and Pyrex glass, to ensure comfort and safety. Starting from their origin, dildos are essential in your arsenal of sex toys. They're easy to use, don't need to be charged (except for the vibrating variants), and just do their job. And thanks to its simplicity, you can get creative with it. You can use it for temperature play, roleplay, BDSM, and whatever other mania you have up your sleeve.

How to choose the right dildo

This is an essential step in using a dildo. If the dildo you are going to buy does not fit your preferences, chances are you will not be satisfied with the experience. Therefore, before adding dildos to your online shopping cart, here are the factors that you must take into account to choose the right dildo:

1. Note the size.

Are you a shy newbie or an experienced queen? If you have never tried a dildo before, we suggest you get a small dildo first. This type of dildo is usually about 5 inches or less in length. Once you've gotten used to the smaller variants, you can get a longer one. You also have to take into account if you are going to perform an anal or vaginal penetration; choose smaller sizes if you are making a back door entry.

2. Check the material.

This determines the firmness, texture, design, level of maintenance, and price of the dildo. If you're looking for something firm and practical, we suggest you opt for dildos made from medical-grade silicone. If you want it hard and rough, you can opt for wooden variants. If what you like is aesthetics, you can opt for glass dildos; don't worry, they are not so fragile, as they are made of specially reinforced glass. Plus, you can heat and cool them, which is great if you like temperature games. On the other hand, avoid dildos made from gelatinous rubber and PVC because they are not safe for your uterus.

3. Choose your preferred shape.

Although dildos are intended to resemble an erect penis, there are variants that are more abstract in shape. If you want to keep a low profile, you can opt for the abstract ones. On the other hand, if you want to keep it real, there are flesh and blood dildos that resemble a penis. There are also shapes that incorporate certain fetishes and hobbies, such as alien-type dildos and animal dildos.

4. Look at the design.

The design determines the way to use the toy and the sensations that are obtained with it. Some dildos are designed to increase pleasure, allow you to take various sexual positions, and help you stimulate certain hot spots. There are dildos that are designed exclusively for partner play, so be sure to keep that in mind when purchasing one.

Dildo Play Techniques

Aside from constant thrusting, there are several ways to use a dildo. If you get tired of the in-and-out movement and want to get the most out of your dildo, here are some techniques you should try:

1. Short and quick strokes

When you use your dildo with this technique, you are giving short, shallow strokes to your vagina or anus. Instead of inserting the entire dildo, you only insert a third of the toy. Since the nerve endings are located just 2-3 inches into your vagina and just above your anal opening, you won't miss out on deep thrusting.

2. Deep thrust

If you are a person who prefers to fill up to the brim, this is the best technique for you. For this method, you simply push the dildo all the way into your vagina for intense stimulation. One tip: have plenty of lube on hand and choose a dildo that is firm enough and won't bend like glass dildos. Choose fancier dildos too, as ones with a lot of ridges can be overwhelming for this technique.

 

3. Swinging

For this technique, the dildo is angled downwards. When you insert it, the tip of the dildo will put pressure on the lower part of the vagina (back wall). This way, you'll still get a thrusting-like sensation, but you'll have additional stimulation on your clitoris and around the vaginal opening. As for those who plan to have anal penetration, we do not suggest using this method. Go for easier anal penetration techniques.

 

4. Swirls

For this method, you are going to insert the dildo into your vagina or anus, then rotate them after being inserted. Some prefer to use the dildo with this technique, while others opt for thrusting. If you want to try this out, just make sure you go for a dildo that doesn't have a sharp angle at the tip.

 

5. G-spot stimulation

It is the inverse technique to the rocking technique. In this case, you are going to put more pressure on the upper part of the vagina where the G-spot is located. Push the dildo against the upper part of your vaginal wall (anterior wall) and then drag the tip of the dildo across the G-spot while pulling out. Keep doing the move until you climax. We also suggest using this method when you anally penetrate a man, as you can stimulate your man's prostate with this technique.

 

Frequent questions

Since you've already learned about dildos and how they can spice up your sex life, chances are you're looking forward to using this exquisite toy. But before you close this guide and use your dildo, we have answered some of the most frequently asked questions.

 

a. Can I use a dildo with a partner?

Yes. The use of dildos can liven up the bedroom, as long as you have communicated it properly to your partner. Some men may be intimidated by dildos as they think their dicks are not enough to satisfy their partners. Therefore, it is best to reassure your partner that using dildos is just a fun way to enhance your sexual experiences. Also, there are dildos designed for couples, so you might want to check them out.

 

b. Can I create my own dildo with household items?

If you feel like masturbating but your dildo shipment is still on the way, you can unleash your creative side and use household items. However, be careful: check if the item can cause infection or injury and if the toy can break during play. You also have to rinse the toys in water and put a condom on them before the action. Here are some suggestions: toothbrush handles, mascara bottles, cucumbers, and makeup brushes.

 

c. I don't like how it feels. What should I do?

If a certain technique doesn't work for you, don't stress. Remember that each person is different. Even if various blogs on how to use a dildo suggest deep penetration, it's okay if you don't like it and try a different method. Just take some time to get to know your own body and see what works best for you when playing with a dildo. Also, if your partner doesn't like using a dildo, don't pressure them to like it. Let him discover the pleasure of using this sexy toy on his own and use other sex toys instead.

 

d. They say it's very unladylike to have a dildo. That's right

No, and it never will be. Your femininity should not be based on the clothes you wear but on your sex life, as well as the use of sex toys such as dildos. Enjoying a healthy and positive sex life is not unwomanly and nothing to be ashamed of. Don't let others project their sexual insecurities onto you: use that dildo with pride.

 

e. Is it necessary to put a condom on the dildo?

If you plan to use the same dildo for vaginal and anal play, it's best to put a condom on first. Once you've finished inserting the toy into your vagina, you can remove the condom, put on a new one, and insert it into your anus. You should also put a condom on the dildo during partner play to prevent infection. However, if you use a dildo exclusively and only insert it into the vagina, the condom is not necessary. Just make sure it's clean before and after you use it.