[Knowledge] Why can't you resist removing the vibrator in the middle of masturbation?

Preface

This question comes up really often in private messages, group chats and comment sections.

Many people think that when masturbating, changing a vibrator with a more gentle stimulation will be fine, only to find out later that the problem is not that simple.

For many people who take away the vibrator in the middle of masturbation, changing the vibrator doesn't help at all, and when they masturbate with a new vibrator, they still can't help taking it away.

After my long observation and long discussion, I finally found the problem!

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First

Masturbation will not be able to resist taking away the vibrator this situation, usually hair on the following scenarios:

• The vibrator itself stimulus strength is very strong, the body can not adapt to the body directly began to encounter the pain, this is a more gentle vibrator can be resolved.
• Masturbation does not pay attention to the state of mind, the spirit and the body did not enter the state, this situation does not need to change the vibrator, masturbation to see the taste of adult films, to ensure that the state can be resolved.
• The body bottom is not good, your body does not allow you to masturbate, this situation needs to be temporarily abstinence, the first to pull up the health of the body, and then we can talk about masturbation.

But under my long-term observation, there is also a fourth situation!

• Your inner emotions are not ready to allow yourself to orgasm, i.e., you know that people are capable of orgasming, but it's a completely different thing than you being able to accept that you can orgasm.

And I can give quantifiable criteria for this scenario:

① Of the people you play well with (including real friends, classmates, and online friends you haven't met), there are no friends who like to engage in pornography.

② You did not take the initiative to talk about pornography with others, or when others are discussing the topic of sex in depth, you did not deeply involved in it, and they discuss it together.

If both of these criteria are met, you are basically unprepared, which is often referred to as “immature”.

Here is another explanation of the difference between “rational acceptance” and “emotional acceptance”;

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A sign of rational acceptance

• “I know that masturbation is normal and that over 90% of people engage in this behavior.”
• “I've read a lot of popular science articles that say women can also achieve orgasm through masturbation.”
• “Sex is a basic human need and orgasm is a physiological response, nothing to be ashamed of.”

Emotional acceptance is shown

• You are able to relax and immerse yourself smoothly during masturbation and do not suddenly stop when you are close to orgasm.
• You don't feel empty, regretful, or ashamed after a masturbatory orgasm, but feel satisfied and relaxed.
• When friends talk about sex or masturbation, you don't feel avoidant or nervous, and you can even participate naturally.
• You can say to yourself, “I have a sex drive, I can enjoy an orgasm, and that's okay.”

At this point I'll give you guys the example of my friend:

My neighbor Emma,She's read a lot about women's sexual health and knows that orgasm is a natural response.

She buys high-quality vibrators to try to masturbate, but can't help but stop every time she gets close to orgasm.

Afterward she thinks, "Why did I do that again? Was I a little dirty?"This is acceptance on an intellectual level and resistance on an emotional level.

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If you don't emotionally accept that you can masturbate yourself to orgasm, then two things can easily happen:

• During masturbation, when you are about to enter the preparatory stage of orgasm, and you are just one foot away from orgasm, you take away the vibrator.
• If you masturbate to orgasm, you will be emotionally depressed after masturbation, and the more emotionally unacceptable it is, the worse the negative feelings after masturbation will be.

To summarize

So, if your situation meets both criteria for judging the fourth scenario, then you can refrain from obsessing about masturbation; masturbation is premature for you .

You can put your time and energy into other things first, and when the opportunity is right, you will naturally be able to emotionally accept that you can masturbate successfully.

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