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How To Prepare For First Time Anal Attempt And Safely Enjoy It

Written by: Bestvibe Published on December 02,2022

Many women see these two words together and cringe. There are many misconceptions about anal sex, and rumors of the pain and mess that anal sex can cause often scare people away from trying it. If you're unaware of the right way to have anal sex, the experience can end up just like the rumors – or even worse.

However, anal sex can be a very pleasurable experience if done correctly and with someone you're comfortable with. This guide will help you understand how to have anal sex safely and perfectly – and avoid any awkward, painful, or messy moments!

What's Anal Sex?

Anal sex means penis-in-anus (butt) intercourse. Some people enjoy anal sex, and some don't like it. Either way is perfectly fine. If you don't like it or don't want to try it, it's not ok for someone to pressure you into it. Sex should feel good and be comfortable for both of you.

Type Of Anal Sex Positions

Side Spoon

A side spoon is recommended, as it takes the pressure off both bodies and allows both people to move. This is also an excellent position for clitoral stimulation as well, which I always suggest for anal Play.


Another great position can be a cowgirl or reverse cowgirl, placing the person on top in charge of the depth and speed of thrusting. It also makes for a great visual and can provide possible clitoral stimulation.

Tantric Yab Yum

This position is a variant, except more like sexy yoga, where the insertee sits in the inserter's lap. Very intimate and sexy position to many people; intercourse tends to be slow in this position, which can be good with anal.

Up From Above

For this position, the recipient lays on her back with her ankles back to her head. Your partner will hover over you and enter from above. The benefit of this intense anal position is the potential for passionate kissing and full eye contact.

How Do you have Anal Sex

It can feel strange when you first explore the anal area, so start slowly.

If you try penetrating (entering) the anus, touching and caressing it can help you relax. This is important because the sphincter (a muscle in the anus) needs to relax so that penetration is comfortable.

Use lots of water-based lubricants and start by penetrating a little. Then, pull out completely. When your partner is ready, penetrate further and then pull out again. Continue this until you are in. Listen to your partner and be ready to stop if they are uncomfortable or in pain.

Anal sex can feel good for both the person giving and receiving it, but it can also take a while to get to that stage. Your experience might not be perfect the first time, so be patient.

How to Prepare for Anal Sex

Anal sex is fun, but having more time to prepare for anal comes in handy if you're new to the game and dealing with everyday roadblocks, like the fear of pain or poop creating an appearance. This information can make all the difference for a beginner on How to Prepare for Anal Sex.

Consider anal training

Anal training involves slowly stretching the anus with a set of anal dilators or plugs in differing sizes, starting with the least and working your way up over time to a bigger size.

If you find the toys intimidating, use your fingers, beginning with your pinky.

And remember to use lube. Lots and excesses of lube.

Invest in a sex throw

Yup, sex throws are something, and they're the cat's pajamas for anyone who enjoys getting messy — or doesn't.

Waterproof sex coverings come in standard mattress sizes and protect your bedding while giving you a plush surface for Play.

Look into different positions

Downward Doggy isn't the only way to have anal sex. Knowing what positions you can try will help you find comfortable ones for you and your partner(s). This is important if you or a partner live with a disability or pain.

Feel free to practice with additional positions before the big show.

Get in the know about your back-there anatomy

Treating yourself to a little Rectal 101 before attempting anal can help increase your comfort level, specifically if you have any hang-ups around the poop thing — which is standard, BTW.

Without moving into a full anatomy lesson, know that:

● Poop sits increased up in your rectum and is unlikely to appear, especially if you've already had a bowel motion that day.

● Anal penetration stimulates many of the same muscles and nerves affected in BMs and could trigger the sense of needing to go, but you won't.

● Your sphincter and rectum are flexible and meant to stretch, but that stretching isn't surprising or permanent.

● Anal orgasms are a thing, and likely whether you have prostate or not.

Set aside time to shower together

Schedule your foray into anal with adequate time to enjoy a shower together. This can do double responsibility as before Play to help get you each comfortable and ready and up the receiving partner's trust when it's time for penetration, says Play.

Don't Forget Aftercare

Congrats on taking the plunge! Enjoy the afterglow, but first, aftercare.

Remember, the microscopic fecal matter may still be present, which is why cleaning up immediately is essential.

Use a wipe or soap and water to clean your butt and genital region, and then wash your hands thoroughly. If you use a toy, wash that too.

After cleaning up, take some time to check in with each other. It's not unusual to feel a little vulnerable after anal for the first time. This is an excellent time to discuss your feelings about the experience and what you might want to do differently next time.

How To Choose Safe Anal Toys

Even if you think of yourself as physically fit and healthy, sex toy safety is no joke. When shopping for sex toys, make sure you go for reputable brands and select body-safe materials such as 100% silicone. It comes in varying degrees of softness and is the best material for those who enjoy lifelike sensations. If you enjoy something stiffer, so to speak, there are plenty of safe, rigid materials out there as well, such as borosilicate glass, stainless steel, treated wood, stone, and ceramic. All these materials are easy to sanitize by boiling and should last a very long time.

Pros of Anal Toys:

There's No Reason Not To

Medically speaking, when the pros and cons of anal sex are considered, there isn't any reason not to enjoy a little butt play if you like it. Just practice safe sex and always change the condom before vaginal sex after anal sex.

It's Safe

It's super important to practice safe sex when having anal sex. Employ the use of lube since the anus is much tighter than the vagina to reduce the number of microscopic tears in the anus.

It Feels so Good

Most women have dense nerves around their anus, making it super sensitive to touch. Before considering anal sex, try a little foreplay with your finger when you're feeling hot and see how it makes you feel.

Cons of Anal Toys:

There are higher risks of infections, which mostly include:

● HPV, or the human papillomavirus, is an infection that can lead to cancer. Cancer of the anus is more common in people who have anal sex with several partners. Your best bet is to stick with just one partner and always use a condom.

● Anal sex puts you at a higher risk for other infections and sexually transmitted diseases. The most effective method of infection prevention is safe sex. Never forgo your condoms!


Is Anal Sex Painful? Does Anal Sex Hurt?

The act of anal sex can be a pleasure-filled ride with mutual consent and understanding. If anal penetration is performed under stress or without the use of proper lubricants, it can hurt.

The anus does not have self-lubrication, so water-based lubricants are recommended.

Is Anal Sex Good?

There is never a perfect way to answer how anal sex feels or if it is good. However, as per studies, breaking free from the bondage of the stigma of anal sex as taboo makes it a pleasing phenomenon for many couples.

Furthermore, the dimension of mental turn-on also plays its role. Besides, a case study reveals that men enjoy variety to satisfy their sexual appetite, making anal penetration an option.


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